🔞 Kid (OCD) patient with a [Deformed] brain filled with incest desires: Effects of PORN addiction.
زُيِّنَ لِلنَّاسِ حُبُّ ٱلشَّهَوَٰتِ مِنَ ٱلنِّسَآءِ
zuyyina linnaasi hubbush shahawaati minannisaaa
“The enjoyment of ˹worldly˺ desires — women;”
This verse is from Chapter 3, Surah Ali ‘Imran, Verse 14;
I’m not an expert, but if you want to teach layman a lesson from this verse, how do you explain it in simple terms? Here, Allah (swt) says that a man’s desire list starts with women. In other words, the first thing on a man’s desire list is women.
I still remember a lecture by Sheikh Said Rageah on the topic of the description of Hoor-al-Ayn that I watched on YouTube. Sheikh said, “So, men — their focus/desire is women.” From the audience, a little buddy replied, “No,” and everyone laughed, including me. But that little buddy had no idea why everyone was laughing. So Sheikh asked him, “How old are you?” The little buddy replied, “6.” Sheikh told him, “Call me when you become 16 and ask me the same question.” This is a famous meme on YouTube.
No matter what type of man you are — Sigma, Alpha, Beta, Gamma, laymen, wo-man, or just a male — your desire starts with women. But if someone denies this, then they might be LGBTQ++. It is not appropriate to address such a person as He/Him.
Okay, enough of the explanation of the verse. For better understanding, look at the Tafseer or ask a people of the Knowledge.
It’s perfectly acceptable to desire multiple [four] wives or a beautiful spouse, as long as you exercise self-control and adhere to halal practices. However, one of the initial and fundamental steps toward becoming a practicing Muslim involves mastering the art of controlling your sexual desires, curbing your lust, and avoiding unlawful behaviors. In our current societal framework, there is a prevalent tendency to emphasize issues such as drug addiction and various other concerns while often overlooking this crucial aspect.
In our current society, if you look for a practicing Muslim family in your village, you’ll find very few. I’m not talking about practicing Muslims or Muslimahs; yes, there are lots of families out there where the mother is a very pious practicing Muslimah, or the father is a practicing Muslim, or their children are very good Muslims and Muslimahs but not all the members or the majority. A practicing Muslim family is truly rare nowadays, and our parents neglect to teach us very basic things about Islam. Some parents are so ignorant they don’t even know the ‘E’ of ‘Islam.’ What will they teach their kids? They create a perfect place for individuals with deformed brains to grow-up.
When you don’t have Islam in your family/life, you have no limits, and you can do anything you want. Free mixing, Having a boyfriend or girlfriend is a common case among our culture, but not everyone engages in zina (illegal sexual relations). Nowadays, boys and girls engage in such things in the first-second month and there are some with lightspeed — for them it took just a week or two of their relationship. It’s normal for boyfriends and girlfriends to share their nudes. Some actually record them. Again, not everyone does this, but some don’t mind doing so, and they don’t even delete or hide those files from their phones. Have some self-respect.
When you have little siblings, they’re going to use your phone from time to time in your presence or absence. It’s very normal. If you look at the screenshot that I posted in this post, it’s really sad. A brother posted about his older sister, who is 25 years old and in a Haram relationship, and he found her nude photos and videos on her phone. Okay, let’s think about this deeply. Did he find those nudes in his sister’s gallery? Probably not. There’s a high chance he was spying on her social media and found them in their inboxes. But this is not the end. He first transferred them to his phone. Why would he do that? She’s his own sister and older. Of course, he took those photos and videos for the purpose of using them in some manner, either for his sexual desire, to blackmail her, or as evidence so that she can’t deny this. But what the brother said in his post is sometimes he masturbates using those photos, and sometimes he even desires to blackmail her into having intimacy with her. This is really scary. When I was reading that post, it was time for my Salah. So after finishing my work, I thought a 5-minute Facebook scroll wouldn’t be bad. I started scrolling through this post in the “Psychological Mind Effect” group. After reading that, I literally got traumatized, and my heart rate increased significantly. I thought, ‘Oh my God, what’s going on? What time are we living in?’ After reading the post and the comments section, I noticed that I had spent over 30 minutes thinking about that post. So I thought, ‘Okay, it’s Salah time,’ but when I stood for Salah, my intention was to recite some specific verses. However, after reciting Al-Fatihah, I started Al-Masad. Then I realized, ‘Oh God, my brain was still processing that post, and I had no idea when I started Dua al-Istiftah, Al-Fatiha, and Al-Masad. I tried to focus on my Salah, but in Ruku, I got the same distraction again and lost in my thoughts. Then I concluded my Salah in the second Raka with Al-Ikhlas.
So, why did I get so traumatized about that post? Well, actually, I used to be a hardcore weeb and used to read a lot of manga. But as I grew up, I started to think that I’m a grown-up now, so I began reading blog posts, reports, and online articles about various topics. Maybe on Quora, I read an article about the exact same scenario where a little brother blackmailed his older sister.
It was a long and detailed story, so I’ll just mention the key context of that article. The story was exactly the same: a brother found his sister in a relationship, took nudes from her phone, and started blackmailing her with a fake Instagram account. The article was probably written by a woman, and she mentioned that her brother used to blackmail her with some photos and videos she can’t remember giving to her boyfriends. He used to tell her that if she didn’t listen to him, he was going to send these photos to her father and brother and then publish them online. So she asked, ‘What do you want?’
At first, he desired sex chat and similar things, but as time went on, his desires kept becoming wilder. He used to text her 24/7, so she tried to convince him with money to delete them for good, but he refused. She was so desperate, so she said, ‘Please, if you keep blackmailing me like this, then I might commit suicide. Since the day you started sending me these, I can’t sleep even for a moment. Please have some mercy.’ Then he said, ‘If you let me have intimacy with you just one time, then I swear I’ll delete them.’ She had no other choice but to accept his condition. So she told him, ‘I want to close this matter as soon as possible, so I’m always available. Please fix a very near date, and this time if you don’t delete them, then I’ll have to commit suicide.’
This went on for over a month, and she said she broke up with her boyfriend when her brother blackmailed her because at first, she thought it was her boyfriend. But when the blackmailer demanded a sex chat, she confirmed that he wasn’t her boyfriend because they had already engaged in intimacy many times, so such a demand from her boyfriend would be pointless. She told him that this would be the last thing she would agree to, and if he continued the same behavior after their encounter, she would commit suicide. So they fixed a date, actually a night. While she was waiting, she found her little brother there. She thought that she could catch the guy who was blackmailing her, and when she saw her brother there, she first got panicked. Then she calmed down and thought this might work in her favor, so she revealed herself because she was in total niqab and abaya. After talking to her brother, she found out that it was her brother. Then she cried a lot at his feet, begged for forgiveness, and asked him not to tell anyone about this. But her brother didn’t listen to her, and they ended up doing the haram.
Then they went home together like nothing had happened between them. After a week, her brother used to go to her when she was alone and talk about those things. At some point, he said to her that he wanted to do the same thing one more time. She totally denied it, but he kept insisting, treating it like it was a lollipop. Those matters between siblings became as normal as those between a horny boyfriend and girlfriend. After trying many things and failing to get her to agree, he told her that he still had some of the photos and videos of her, and as a matter of fact, he showed her. So, once again, she had no other choice but to fulfill his demand. They started doing it frequently — morning, evening, night. She even said that they used to do it three to four times a day at times, which is more than even newly married couples do. As time went on, she, without realizing it, became his personal sex toy. And this continued for almost 2.5 years, and then she got married, bringing this incest story to an end.
I don’t know if this story is real or fake, but it’s a truly horrifying and scary tale. Our mothers, daughters, and sisters aren’t even safe at home. Now, let’s go back to the original story about the screenshot I provided in this post. From the style of writing of the boy, you can tell he’s literally the type of boy from the Quora. The author of that story was an Indian woman, but today the post I saw is indeed from a Bangladeshi. Without a doubt, he’s an OCD patient with a deformed brain filled with incest desires. This only happens due to excessive porn addiction. Okay, many of us don’t know what OCD is. Let me explain it briefly: Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a mental health condition where a person has persistent, unwanted thoughts (obsessions) that can cause anxiety and urges to engage in repetitive behaviors (compulsions) to try to relieve that anxiety.
People are behaving like animals, and it doesn’t matter to them whether she’s their mother, sister, or daughter forget about cousins or aunts. That’s the reason I felt frozen and traumatized after seeing this post; in an instant, I remembered the story from Quora that this is going to happen all over again.
Look at where we have fallen. A brother is like a guardian/protector of his sister but here he’s planning something haram [the ultimate zina] and Incest is becoming a normal thing nowadays, and if we don’t take it seriously now, it’s going to be a big problem later on. The only solution is Islam. Without guidance, you’ll be led astray sooner or later. So, learn the deen, then act upon it, educate your children about the deen, and raise them in an Islamic way.
